Sunday, 1 February 2009

How to resolve Marital disagreements

Question - What is your advice for husbands and wives so that they may resolve marital disagreements that occur between them? And what is your advice to some guardians and women who prevent the marriage of girls in their care in order to get their incomes?

Answer - I advise every husband and wife to avoid disagreements between themselves and to disregard each others shortcomings. This is indicated by the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم in his words

لا يفرك مومن مومنة، إن كره منها خلقا رضي منها آخر

" A believing man should not hate a believing woman , if he is annoyed by some aspect of her character, some other aspect of her character will please him."

As those who prevent the girls in their charge from getting married in order to get whatever income they have from working - their guardians are betraying them, and it is forbidden for them to do so.If they should do this, their guardianship should be revoked and they will pass into the care of the next guardian, after the one who prevented them from marriage. If the second one prevents them also, they pass to the third and so on. If all of the guardians refuse to give them in marriage, due to fear of a rift in relations with the first guardian, then the matter should be submitted to the Court and the Judge will give her in marriage.

Ash Sheikh Ibn Uthaimin
Fatawa Islamiyyah Vol.5
pgs 365-366

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