Tuesday, 23 December 2008

The benefit of being good to one's daughter

I request from his eminence to present some advice for the one who is being tested by way of one’s daughters and the benefit in raising them and in dealing with them in a good manner.

Response: It is necessary that those who provide for their daughters that they be good to them and raise them while observing good manners. The Prophet, the peace & blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

{Whoever is tested with something due to one’s daughters and remains good to them (during this trial) then he will have a cover that will protect him from the hellfire (on the Day of Judgment).}*

The Sunnah is to raise them while observing good manners, and to invite them to righteousness. As well as being gentle with them as there is glad tidings in being good to one’s daughters or sisters. And they should invite them to Allah by finding them righteous husbands who will excel in protecting them and enjoin them to fulfill the commands of Allah.

ash-Shaykh ‘Abdul-‘Azeez bin Baaz (rahimahullah)
Arabic Source: http://www.ibnbaz.org.sa/mat/1649
Translated by: Aboo ‘Imraan al-Mekseekee-may Allah guide him

* Related by at-Tirmidhee in Kitaab-ul-Birr was-Silah (the Book of Piety and Relations with the Relatives) under the chapter “What has been revealed regarding one’s spending on the daughters and sisters” with the wording: {Whoever is tested with something due to one’s daughters and he is patient with it then he will have a cover that will protect him from the hellfire (on the Day of Judgment).} And he also said in a narration graded as Hasan that was related by Ibn Maajah in Kitaab-ul-Adab (the Book of Manners) in the chapter “Serving the parents and being good to one’s daughters” with the wording: {Whoever has three daughters and is patient with them and feeds them, gives them drink, and clothes them from his provisioning, he will have a cover that will protect him from the hellfire on the Day of Judgment.}


Empress Anisa said...

Umm Khadijah... Assalaam 'Alaikum, sis! yes, sometimes I feel I'm a little hard on my princess (she's 4) but I'm trying to instill the correct behavior in her from now- can't do it when they're too old but then again sometimes I feel like I'm a little too firm... only trying to be the best Mommy that I can be- InshaAllah, I feel it'll pay off in the end

hijabee said...

Mashallah, thanks for sharing this.

Naimah Umm Khadijah said...

Empress Anisa - Wa alaykum assalam sis, I understand what you mean, as parents we know we have a great responsibility raising our children up, and only want the best for them insha Allaah.
Like with me, I kind of have certain expectations of them, and the kind of manners I would like them to have, so when they're going against that, it can really make me frustrated, and then I feel like I'm constantly going on and on at them, especially my eldest daughter.

I'm sure your doing a great job Insha Allaah, May Allaah guide us and our children and make us steadfast upon Islam, ameen.

Hijabee - My pleasure sis.